If my cat sees a plate beside me, he won't come near me. He will actually slowly walk away once he's spotted it, and stare it like it's about to attack. I always hated the idea of animals that are beggars. So when I got Mr Jones, I would bark in his face every time he got near my food. It's been very effective! The only time he'll come near a plate is if I'm not in the room. Even if he doesn't see anything on the plate, he knows that if he gets near it, I will growl at him.
I suppose it's all about communication. You must learn the language to get your point across. I have recently had to learn my boyfriend's language. I am FAR from perfecting it, but I've been dipping my toes in it.
I've told him that if we ever have a three-some, it'll be with a gay person. Gay or lesbian. Yesterday, he finally asked me why? Why would I be ok with him having sex with a guy or me a girl, but not the other way around? I turned to him and very bluntly stated, "I'm your pussy. I'm all ya get!" He appreciated my effort in speaking in his terms.
Here's an example of why communication is important. After asking to come over to his place after class to "show him a school project," he changed plans on me. He said he's going to go rock climbing with a group of his girl friends and invited me. I flipped a switch. He offered to come over later, but explained that it'd only be for a couple minutes. A few days later I explained it all to him.
He invited me to do something he knew, KNEW that I wouldn't do. In doing so, he completely changed my plans. I even threw in that I was wearing a red mini dress and thi-high socks. Still went over his head. (Yes dear, you could've gotten laid.) He slapped himself and told me if I had just said I wanted sex, no problems. He doesn't get subtle hints. Describing what I wore turned him on, but he only suspected it was just me teasing him.
So, lesson learned. Guys, if a girl mentions something out of the ordinary (I never asked to come over JUST so he can check out my school project... NEVER.. I also said for me to go to his place, which lately, he's been coming here. But I mentioned to him the evening before that that will change because of my roommate's mother and her three kids that now live in the room beside me), then she's probably hinting at something else. Ladies, guys understand better if you are completely blunt.